Wednesday, September 12, 2007
i was just blog-hopping and at the same time , comtemplating if i should head to mambo anot..
and i came across this.
very true, dun u think ?
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Friday, June 15, 2007
Friend Poaching
There's this article in the latest CLEO (pg 94), which I find quite interesting.I know of things like that happening, but I didn't know there was an "official term" for it.Will share some parts!
***Friend Poaching - The new way to widen your social circle
A few months ago, I caught up with some friends for a beer at the pub. They'd invited another friend, CK, and it didn't take long to realise that CK was my kind of girl - chatty, not at all shy, loves a laugh and a drink. Within minutes of meeting, we were chatting like we'd known each other for years.
After a few drinks, we exchanged numbers and promised to catch up. CK and I are now super close and speak every second day. What happened to the friends we met through, you ask? I see them occasionally and so does she. But CK and I have more in common. Ok, I'll admit it. I friend poached.Many people would say what I did was socially unacceptable, but I'm certainly not alone in this. Friend poaching is a growing trend in our society, where working long hours and having fewer chances to meet people are the norm. If we can't make more friends on our own anymore, what's the harm in stealing our friends' friends?
Ally, 26, believes it's all about social upgrading. One of her best friends, Jess, works as a fashion editor, so their group of girlfriends is constantly being asked for her mobile number by people desperate to cash in on Jess' cool factor. It got so frustrating that Ally decided to coin a term for this trend - glomming (which is defined in the dictionary as "stealing" or "seizing onto").
"That's the thing with glomming," Ally admits. "Less cool people try to glom people they think will make them look good at their upcoming party and so try to get these trendsetters direct, not through the person who introduced them. One of my friends tried to glom Jess, but I'd had enough and flat-out refused to hand over her number. Everyone makes friends through friends, but it's another thing altogether to glom. If you haven't got the social skills to make a connection with someone you want to be friends with, don't try and get in with them via their real friends. There's something in that that just reeks of desperation."
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Mel, 22, doesn't agree. "It feels like they're going behind your back," she says. "I guess it's a territorial thing. I have different sets of friends and I like it like that. But if my friends from school start becoming mates with my work friends, then everyone starts hanging out together and I'd hate that"
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Psychologist Todd Zemek says the key issues that arise when friendships spill over into other friendships are loyalty and history."People can be very territorial about their friends. You really have to consider the middle person's feelings when you're in this situation. But at the same time, that middle person should be realistic and ask themselves why these two parties would want to be friends. What are they offering each other that you can't provide? It certainly highlight issues in a friendship that you may not have otherwise recognised. Sometimes it boils down to the fact that people do just grow apart".
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i felt the earthquake just now
i tot was my HDD going running very fast and so i tried to put my bottle on it, and it was swaying left and right.
and so i thought, well maybe.. and it hit me that OF COS the water will sway la! i just move the bottle only what! (i know i'm a dumbass!)
so what could it be ?
and the other thought came to me, maybe my heart is beating too fast. so i checked my headbeat. seems normal.
and soon after i tot i was just tired.
and stacy msged me "I FELT THE EARTHQUAKE" soon after !
i was like "i'm such an idiot!"
seriously, i'm as silly as i can get.
geez. i somehow still doubt my capitabilities.
will upload photos from MONO on saturday soon..
I WAS FUKING WASTED COS I GOT BULLIED BY STACY'S FRIENDS!
AND HENCE suffered a massive hangover on sunday!
urgh!
memories jotted down @ 7:55 PM `